Advise on dating bad boys
There are typically four reasons good girls fall for guys like these: 1. Many women attracted to rogues had a father who was a little wild and rebellious.Because many girls idealize their father, they may seek a partner with similar traits. Over the last few years I’ve had several relationships with men who broke my heart.I’ve been with men who’ve used my savings, called me horrible names, chose who I was allowed to see, and one of them punched me.The downside of the Alpha is he can sometimes be self-obsessed, insensitive, jealous, controlling, perhaps even demeaning or violent in extreme cases.
In my work as a relationship coach and blogger, I hear it over and over again — yet, at some level, it still takes me by surprise — "Why do so many really smart, accomplished and attractive women go for 'bad boys' or Alpha males?Perhaps the best real-life example of this scenario is actress Sandra Bullock and her ex-husband, motorcycle bad boy Jesse James, who publicly split after his serial infidelity was revealed in 2010another because they are strong enough to "take" her, these men are also the cheaters, verbal/emotional abusers or worse.I was really glad she asked her question for two reasons: (1) because the same problem affects so many smart, accomplished women, and (2) because I can explain what this phenomenon is all about.Why is it that many sensible and responsible women are attracted to “bad boys?” What do otherwise conscientious and even conservative women see in rebels and rabble-rousers?