Understanding latino dating
Don’t assume that your date’s world view will mirror yours just because you share Latin heritage.
As with any new relationship, Hispanic or not, discovering spiritual and cultural differences and commonalities is part of the adventure. Hispanic Dating: Take it Slow Before you make any smooth moves on your date, acknowledge that some Hispanic daters may have traditional, stricter dating rules and expect certain restraint or dating etiquette.
It will feel normal to you to have dinner at 10 pm and to go out to a bar at midnight. I remember asking a tour guide in Guatemala once what time the bus arrived. I’m not condoning that either, but just occasionally it would be nice to go out without sleepy children draped over the table or a baby crying in the corner. But once I was driving in a car with my Latin boyfriend. It turns out my boyfriend had been watching me “checking out” the 60 year-old street sweeper on the sidewalk outside.
And she spurted out a schedule based on GMT – “Guatemala Maybe Time”. I looked out the window a couple of times to see if the traffic light had turned green yet. Nothing against street sweepers or mature men, but it’s just not really my style. You’ll end up covering yourself up to avoid these outbursts. We’re not talking burkini here, but don’t even think of going topless on a beach in Europe… Whether you’re the one who has to speak in Spanish, or they talk in English, there will come a time when communication breaks down due to the language barrier.
Learn about your date’s relationship with both faith and cultural traditions and discover if you’re spiritually compatible.
Respect what you don’t know, ask questions, and be honest about your own relationship with God, faith, and tradition.
“Even when they yell, ‘Get me a Corona bien fria, mujer!
Alexandra Morbitzer, a 24-year-old social media consultant from Ohio who now resides in New York City, has experienced this with her Latino boyfriend.
“It’s a very big priority [for him] to take care of his mother — helping her with rent, replacing whatever breaks,” she says. “He is protective of me and likes to take care of me,” Morbitzer gushes.
Learning about their political beliefs, family values and how they view your country is an eye-opener as well. What kind of a mother still buys underwear for their 30-year-old son anyway? What kind of a mother has to be involved in every single decision about absolutely everything? If you’ve spent your life getting excited about waking up to presents under the tree on Christmas morning, forget it.
From the color of your couch to the cut of your suit? In what kind of a world was your ability to make empanadas more important than your ability to make dollars? Dating a Latino means having a Christmas feast around the table the night before. You will hand out presents and chink glasses at midnight.